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What is positive intelligence, and how can it help you achieve your goals?
If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. -Daniel Goleman
We all have saboteurs — those little voices in our head that tell us we’re not good enough, that we can’t achieve our goals. Sometimes I feel those are my most frequent conversations with those voices. They’re the ones that hold us back from taking risks and pursuing our dreams. But what if there was a way to silence those saboteurs? That’s where positive intelligence comes in.
Positive intelligence is the idea that we all have an “inner saboteur” — a part of our brain that’s constantly trying to hold us back. But we also have an “inner Sage” — a part of our brain that’s creative, resourceful, and intelligent. The key is to learn how to silence the saboteur and let the Sage take the reins.
When you learn how to harness positive intelligence, you’ll find yourself taking more risks, being more innovative, and achieving your goals like never before. So if you’re ready to take your life to the next level, positive intelligence is the way to go!
The Origin of Saboteurs
Every time I overcome an obstacle, it feels like success. Sometimes the biggest ones are in our head — the saboteurs that tell us we can’t. — Lupita Nyong’o
Our Saboteurs begin as our protectors, assisting us in surviving the real and imagined dangers to our physical and emotional survival as youngsters. By the time we reach adulthood, we no longer need them, but they have become unconscious inhabitants of our minds. We are “hijacked” by our Saboteurs when these neural connections are activated, and their primitive mission is to protect us from the imagined dangers of adulthood by undermining our success.
Meet the Saboteurs
The Judge: Your Master Saboteur
The Judge is the world’s most common Saboteur. It’s the one that disciplines you for making errors or having flaws, nags you about future dangers, harasses you at night with worry, gets you fixated on what’s wrong with your life, and so forth. The Judge activates your other Saboteurs, causes a significant amount of unhappiness and stress. It makes you less effective and can affect your relationships. (And it’s the one that seems to be my constant companion.)
This Saboteur focuses and is driven by their need for joy, which means they focus on the positive and pleasant in an obsessive way. While it can be difficult at times because of avoiding conflict or unpleasant tasks; these people are often very happy with what’s going on around them.
This Saboteur for people who suffer with anxiety have an overwhelming need to take charge and control situations that they can’t always do so. When there is no choice, these people are typically very impatient until their desired outcome becomes reality again or something changes in the environment for them — such as another person taking action on behalf of yourself!
These people have a deep need for respect and recognition. They’re always looking at the latest achievement to feel accomplished, but it’s not enough because there is still this craving inside of them that just won’t go away no matter how much success they seem to achieve with whatever project or task in front them at any given time.
Intense and exclusive focus on the rational processing of everything, including relationships. This can be perceived as cold or aloof to others’ feelings. A person who has an intense focus like this might come off as uncaring sometimes since they’re not emotionally invested in other people anyways. Sometimes individuals with high intelligence will suffer from intellectual arrogance which is when someone thinks their knowledge makes them better than everyone else around him/her.
The constant state of alert, on-the-go with no time for yourself. You are always watching out and listening intently in order to make sure nothing goes wrong or gets taken advantage of. The anxiety can be exhausting but at least there’s room enough inside this body that you don’t feel like bursting forth from your skin intensity wise? The vigilant nature takes up all our energy so we never rest either physically OR mentally.
A person who is always helping, pleasing and rescuing others may come to lose sight of their own needs. They become resentful as a result because they feel like these acts should be enough for the people around them but it’s not satisfying either party involved in this relationship dynamic. I think one way we can try fixing our problem here would just entail slowing down sometimes- taking time out from being everyone’s best friend (and doing everything right) so you aren’t constantly running on empty or feeling overwhelmed by your responsibilities.
You’re always on the go. You can’t stay in one place for more than five minutes before you start looking around and wondering what’s next on your list of things to do? Constant motion, never at rest or content with where they are right now.
These people have a deep-seeded fear that everything they do or say will be considered imperfect. They become caught up in making sure all their actions meet high standards, which leads them to overdo it on things like cleaning and organization as well for fear of being judged by others who may not share these same concerns about perfectionism. Perfectionists often struggle with anxiety because the need for order seems so important when you’re constantly surrounded by disorderliness everywhere else.
The most difficult people to live with are those who have an intense, almost painful focus on their internal feelings. These individuals can be extremely sensitive and often take things too far when they need attention or affection from others in order not feel ignored by them — which sometimes leads these types of folks into doing something dramatic. People with the marty personality type often feel as though they are being emotionally and physically attacked by others. They tend to internalize pain, especially when it comes in contrast or opposition from those around them who enjoy rewarding themselves at their expense — a form of emotional abuse known alternatively (and interchangeably) called “projection,” “contrasting emotions” etcetera.
How to identify your personal saboteurs
The ego mind both professes its desire for love and does everything possible to repel it, or if it gets here anyway, to sabotage it. That is why dealing with issues like control, anger, and neediness is the most important work in preparing ourselves for love. - Marianne Williamson
How can you identify your personal saboteurs? One way is to use the a quiz to help identify what your saboteurs accomplices in addition to the universal Judge. And then simply listen to the thoughts you have when you’re facing a challenge or pursuing a goal. What are the voices in your head saying? Are they encouraging you to keep going, or are they telling you to give up?
Another way to identify your saboteurs is to think about the decisions you make in your life. Do you often find yourself choosing the safe option instead of the one that would require more effort? Do you shy away from new opportunities because you’re afraid of failing? If so, your saboteurs may be to blame.
The final way to identify your saboteurs is to pay attention to your emotions. Do you feel anxious or stressed when you’re trying something new? Do you feel like giving up when things get tough?
What are some techniques for building positive intelligence and using it to your advantage?
In today’s world, it’s more important than ever to have a sharp mind. To be successful, you need to be able to think quickly on your feet, come up with innovative solutions, and stay focused on your goals. So how can you set your mind up for success?
Building positive intelligence starts with daily mental exercise. Just like you need to workout your physical muscles to stay in shape, you need to workout your mental muscles to keep your mind sharp. This can be as simple as using Shirzad Chamine’s break-through 6-week PQ Program and PQ Gym app to strengthen those muscles, or taking some time to meditate or do some deep breathing exercises. I was curious about to control my saboteurs, I took the 6-week program and it was an amazing experience. Here’s how the program breaks down in the 6-weeks:
PQ reps are a new way to boost your self-command muscle. Each Pq rep only takes 10 seconds and can be done with eyes open or closed, so it’s easy for you get started right away! With each repetition of the process, we develop greater mastery over ourselves while also quieting negative thoughts in order activate positive regions within our brains.
Saboteur Interceptor Muscle
The lies, the limiting beliefs and damaging thoughts of your saboteurs will no longer be able to fool you into thinking they are helpful. This is because in preparation for this practice we get rid of them by exposing their falsehoods so that when it comes time again our minds can stay focused on what’s important — YOU!
Every problem or challenge can be converted into a gift and opportunity. And you get to generate the gifts through 5 powerful powers: Empathize, Explore Innovate, Navigate, Activate.
You’ll learn how these skills work in your life when things are going well as well as those moments where they might not seem so helpful but actually help bring out new strengths that were never before seen.
In addition to daily mental exercise, it’s also important to focus on one specific area each week. This could be working on your personal or professional 3 core mental muscles and in the following weeks, you will use those muscles in various activities.
You need to workout your mental muscles to keep your mind sharp. This can be as simple as doing a crossword puzzle or Sudoku every day, or taking some time to meditate or do some deep breathing exercises. You can also try memory games or brainteasers to give your mind a workout.
This could be working on your problem-solving skills, honing your memory, or practicing innovation. By taking the time to focus on one area at a time, you’ll see big improvements in your overall intelligence. With a little daily practice and weekly focus, you can start building positive intelligence that will help you succeed in all areas of life.
How can you stay motivated and on track when things get tough?
When innovation isn’t happening as quickly as you’d like, or when you’re feeling stuck in a rut, it’s easy to get discouraged. But giving up is not the answer. The key is to find ways to stay motivated and on track, even when things are tough. One way to do this is to keep your goals in mind. What are you working towards? What do you want to achieve? Keeping your goals at the forefront of your mind will help you stay focused when things get tough. Another way to stay motivated is to daily practice. This could be anything from writing for 15 minutes every day to taking a walk around the block. The important thing is to find something that you can commit to doing on a daily basis, even when you don’t feel like it. Finally, it can be helpful to choose one task each week that you will focus on. This could be something big, like working on a new project, or something small, like decluttering your desk. By focusing on one task each week, you can break down your goals into manageable pieces and avoid getting overwhelmed by the big picture. When things get tough, these tips will help you stay motivated and on track.
You cannot raise a man/woman up by calling them down. -William J.H. Boetker
It’s important to stay motivated and on track no matter what challenges you face in life. With a little daily practice and weekly focus, you can start building positive intelligence that will help you succeed in all areas of life. Positive intelligence is the key to success, so remember your goals and stay focused on reaching your full potential. Have you tried focusing on one area at a time to develop your positive intelligence? What has been the most successful for you? Let us know in the comments!
I’ve been blessed to have an unconventional life. At the age of four, I was diagnosed Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis which at the time, I didn’t know would alter how I would live my life forever. And then at the age of twenty-one, I was in a car accident that left me paralyzed. As a result, I got very used to always looking for the most comfortable option to avoid any physical discomfort. The side effect to living a comfortable life is that I became static in my way of thinking and how I viewed the world. Living life like this obviously didn’t do me any favors. I wouldn’t say that I lived a sheltered life, but I lived a safe life. I reached the point where I felt like I needed to voyage into the unknown (Qeue the song from Frozen) to see what I needed to learn and expand my world, and it could only be accomplished by putting myself into uncomfortable situations. The self-experiments have helped gain new insight on what comfort zones mean and how they increased my wisdom.
What going out of my comfort zone means to me
Discomfort. It’s not a popular emotion and most of us go to great lengths to avoid it. But what if we could learn to welcome discomfort? What if instead of being something to be avoided, discomfort became a source of wisdom?
Stepping out of our comfort zone is one of the best ways to learn and grow. It’s how we challenge ourselves to do things we thought were impossible. It’s how we push past our limits and discover new talents and abilities. And it’s how we build character and strength.
So the next time you’re feeling uncomfortable, remember that it just might be the universe trying to tell you something. Discomfort is often the first step on the road to wisdom.
The first time I ever went out of my comfort zone
Discomfort is often where I find the best wisdom. It is in those moments that I was forced to confront my fears and learn more about myself. This was certainly the case when I decided to go out of my comfort zone for the first time after I ended up in a wheelchair. Until then, I had always been content to stay within the familiar situation of having my dad drive me everywhere. But one day, I took a leap of faith and decided that I needed to be able to use the public transit system if I wanted to have any type of life whatsoever. In my home state of Utah, they offer individuals with physical disabilities a free pass for the bus, the train, and the trolley. As the miles slid by on my way to do the assessment and confirmation that I have a disability (as if the giant metal wheelchair under my butt wasn’t proof enough), I felt my heart rate begin to rise. By the time we pulled into the station, I was a nervous wreck. But I steeled myself and disembarked. As I rolled through the bustling streets, surrounded by strangers, I realized that there was nothing to be afraid of. In fact, it was invigorating to experience something new. Plus, it allowed me new sense of independence that I hadn’t felt in a while. Since that day, I have made a habit of seeking out new experiences and pushing myself outside of my comfort zone. And each time, I have found that discomfort is indeed where wisdom lies.
How stepping outside of my comfort zone has increased wisdom
Discomfort is often seen as an unpleasant experience that we should avoid. However, discomfort can also be a powerful teacher. Stepping outside of my comfort zone has helped me to learn important life lessons and to become more wise. Each time I try something new, I am faced with challenges that force me to think creatively and to problem-solve. As I overcome these obstacles, I gain confidence in my abilities and a deeper understanding of the world around me. In addition, taking risks has helped me to meet new people and to learn about different cultures. As my horizons expand, I am able to see the world in a new light and to develop a more nuanced view of the human experience. By stepping out of my comfort zone, I have found that discomfort can lead to wisdom.
A personal story about how going out of my comfort zone led to an increase in wisdom
But what if discomfort could actually lead to wisdom? I found out the answer to this question the hard way.
A few years ago, I went with my family to California; Now, I had been to California many times and I love it every time I go. I always expect trying times when traveling in a wheelchair, but this trip had something else in store for me.
At first, everything was going great. I was enjoying that typical activities of Disneyland, the beach, and Angels games. I was having a great time. That night, my brother-in-law had the idea of whale watching in Dana Point, California. I hate boats! I couldn’t swim before my wheelchair, guess what I can swim even less now with only half my body working.
I was terrified of the idea, but I knew I couldn’t ruin this for my family and if I tried, there was a good chance they might kill me. When we arrived to the pier to board the boat, the set up to get aboard was not pretty. It had a steep wooden ramp down, so I thought my heavy motorized chair was going to crash through. Then I had to go up another ramp to get onto the boat and then there was a sharp turn to take. The captain, his crew, my brother-in-law, and my dad were warriors and got me and my chair on.
The first half of the trip, I was stationary and I couldn’t move to see and enjoy anything about it. Slowly, I started unclenching and enjoying the sites; it became an amazing experience with my family. We were able to experience seeing a pod of dolphins.
Even though it was scary, it also taught me a lot about myself. I realized that I was capable of handling situations that were outside of my comfort zone. And I also learned how to trust people I encounter to help create fantastic experiences for me to enjoy. In other words, discomfort led to wisdom and dolphins.
So next time you’re feeling discomfort, remember that it could be the first step on the path to wisdom. Embrace it and see where it takes you. You might be surprised by what you learn about yourself.
Some tips for those looking to go out of their comfort zones in order to increase wisdom
1. Understand your comfort zone
We all have our comfort zones. That sweet spot where we feel safe, supported and in control. It’s a place of comfort and predictability where we know what to expect. But it’s also a place where we can get stuck. This is because our comfort zone is also a place of stagnation, where we’re not challenged to grow or stretch beyond our current abilities. So how do we find the balance between staying in our comfort zone and pushing ourselves to grow? The key is wisdom. We need to be wise enough to know when it’s time to stay put and when it’s time to step out of our comfort zone. With wisdom, we can find the courage to take risks, secure in the knowledge that they are necessary for our growth.
2. Identify the risks and rewards of stepping out of your comfort zone
There’s an old saying that “Wisdom Comes From Experience”. In other words, we learn from our mistakes. This is certainly true when it comes to stepping out of our comfort zones. Every time we take a risk, we open ourselves up to the possibility of failure. But if we’re never willing to take risks, we’ll never grow or accomplish anything new. So stepping out of your comfort zone can be scary, but it’s also essential for personal growth. Of course, it’s important to carefully consider the risks before taking any major leaps. But as long as you’re prepared for the worst case scenario, chances are you’ll end up just fine. And even if things don’t go according to plan, you’ll at least have the satisfaction of knowing that you gave it your best shot. So don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and face the unknown. It might just be the best decision you ever make.
3. Make a plan to gradually step out of your comfort zone
We all have comfort zones. Mine is in the predictable situations, doing things I know and enjoy. But comfort zones are also mental states — ways of thinking and behaving that we fall into because they’re familiar and safe. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. After all, wisdom comes from knowing ourselves and our limits. But it can also lead to stagnation and a fear of change. If we’re not careful, our comfort zones can become prisons that prevent us from growing and achieving our full potential.
The good news is that it’s possible to break out of our comfort zones, but it doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time and effort to change the way we think and behave, but it’s worth it. Stepping out of our comfort zones is how we learn and grow as individuals. So if you’re feeling stuck, make a plan to gradually step out of your comfort zone. Push yourself to try new things, meet new people, and learn new skills. It won’t be easy, but it’ll be worth it.
4. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable
If there’s one thing that wisdom comes with, it’s the realization that life is uncomfortable. From the moment we’re born, we’re thrust into a world that is unfamiliar and often frightening. We cry and wail, unable to express our needs or desires. As we grow older, we experience the discomfort of acne, awkwardness, and heartbreak. And even as adults, we face struggles and challenges that can be daunting and overwhelming. But it’s important to remember that discomfort is a necessary part of life. It’s through embracing our fears and uncertainties that we grow and develop as individuals. So next time you’re feeling uncomfortable, instead of trying to escape it, welcome it as a sign that you’re on the path to wisdom and growth.
5. Be patient with yourself and give yourself time to adjust
The wisest people are not always the ones who have been through the most, but the ones who have taken the time to reflect on and learn from their experiences. This is why it is so important to be patient with yourself and give yourself time to adjust. It takes wisdom to grow, and wisdom comes from making mistakes and learning from them. So, if you find yourself struggling, don’t be too hard on yourself. Take a step back, breathe, and remember that everyone goes through rough patches. With a little time and patience, you will get through this too.
6. Celebrate your accomplishments, big or small
It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day grind and forget to take a step back and celebrate your accomplishments, big or small. But if you don’t take the time to appreciate your successes, you’re missing out on an important opportunity for wisdom and growth. By taking a moment to reflect on what you’ve achieved, you can gain valuable insights into your strengths and weaknesses. You can also learn to be more humble and appreciative of the challenges you face. So next time you reach a milestone, take a deep breath and give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back. You deserve it!
Closing thoughts on the matter
Going out of our comfort zones can be a scary proposition, but it’s also one of the most effective ways to grow as individuals. By gradually stepping out of our safe spaces and welcoming discomfort, we learn new things, meet new people, and develop new skills. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. So if you’re feeling stuck, make a plan to push yourself out of your comfort zone. And be patient with yourself. It takes time to adjust, but you will get there. Congratulations on taking the first step!
When it comes to our professional and personal lives, we all want to succeed. What does this imply for each of us, though? It means something unique for everyone. To be successful, we must have a clear vision for ourselves — one that is both personal and professional. In this article, I’ll discuss how to create a wonderful life by strengthening our vision. In my life, I’ve had to reimagine my life numerous times because of my disabilities. At age 21, I was in a car accident that left me in a wheelchair. These are some of the things I’ve learned on my journey.
1. Define what success means to you
Defining what success means to you is an important first step in achieving it. Without a clear vision of what you want to achieve, it will be difficult to set goals or make progress. Success means different things to different people, so it’s important to take the time to figure out what it means to you. Once you have a good understanding of what success looks like for you, you can start taking steps to achieve it. Keep your definition of success in mind as you work towards your goals, and remember that it may change over time. Don’t be afraid to reevaluate your definition of success as your life and aspirations change. If you keep your eye on the prize, you’re sure to find success in whatever form it takes.
2. Set realistic goals that are aligned with your definition of success
Without a clear vision, it’s impossible to set goals that are in alignment with your definition of success. Your vision is your north star–it’s what you’re working towards and what motivates you to keep going when things get tough. Without a Vision, you’ll be easily tempted to take shortcuts or veer off course because you won’t have a clear sense of what you’re trying to achieve. So, tip #2 is to make sure that you spend some time developing a Vision for your life–one that is in alignment with your values and what you want to achieve. Once you have a Vision, setting goals becomes much easier because you’ll know exactly what you’re working towards. So take the time to develop a Vision for your life–it’ll be worth it in the long run!
3. Believe in yourself and your ability to achieve your goals
One of the most important things you can do when it comes to achieving your goals is to believe in yourself. It sounds simple, but so many people don’t do it. They doubt their ability to reach their goals and end up sabotaging their own efforts.
Believing in yourself is about having faith in your ability to reach your goals, no matter how daunting they may seem. It’s about knowing that you have what it takes to succeed, even when the odds are stacked against you. When you believe in yourself, you give yourself the power to achieve anything you set your mind to.
If you want to achieve your goals, start by believing in yourself. Vision boards, affirmations, and positive self-talk are all great ways to increase your belief in yourself and your ability to reach your goals. When you believe in yourself, anything is possible!
4. Take action towards your goals - don't just sit around and wait for things to happen
So many people sit around and wait for things to happen. They wait for the perfect opportunity, the perfect time, and the perfect person. But what they don’t realize is that opportunities, time, and people will never be perfect. The only thing you can do is take imperfect action towards your imperfect goals. Vision without action is just a dream. Action without vision is just passing the time. But vision with action can change the world. So if you want to change your life, start taking action today. It doesn’t matter if it’s perfect or not. Just take the first step and see where it takes you. You might be surprised at how far you can go.
5. Surround yourself with positive people who will support your dreams and aspirations
The people we surround ourselves with have a profound effect on our lives. If we surround ourselves with positive people, they will help support our dreams and aspirations. On the other hand, if we surround ourselves with negative people, they will bring us down and make it harder for us to achieve our goals. Therefore, it is important that we carefully choose the people we allow into our lives. One way to do this is to identify our core values and only associate with people who share those values. Another way to choose wisely is to surround ourselves with people who are already successful in the area we want to pursue. By doing so, we can learn from their example and tap into their network of resources. The bottom line is that the company we keep has a direct impact on our ability to achieve success. So be selective about who you let into your life and make sure they are positive people who will help support your dreams and aspirations.
6. Be patient - Rome wasn't built in a day!
Vision is one of the most important things in life. It’s what drives us to achieve our goals and it’s what helps us stay focused on the things that are important to us. Without vision, we would be lost. Vision is what guides us through life and helps us make decisions. It’s what allows us to see the potential in ourselves and in others. Vision is what gives us hope. Hope is what allows us to believe that anything is possible. And when we have hope, we are able to endure the hardships of life and come out stronger on the other side. So, be patient. Rome wasn’t built in a day. And neither is your vision. Give yourself time to grow and develop. And don’t give up on your dreams. They are worth fighting for.
7. Celebrate each accomplishment, no matter how small it may seem